Holly - Ilex aquifolium

What does really make you angry? What makes our adrenalin glands work. It must be something very important and meaningful to us – else we would not become angry. Anger must be meaningful itself  - so never underestimate an anger attack of your child. It definitely indicates something important is going on. Holly is about powerful emotions like anger and jealousy. 

The family is the right place to learn how to cope with anger, but unfortunately many families lack the ability to teach the worth of it. For some being angry seems just another word for being a barbarian. Many people are proud to say that their families do not know any conflicts and quarreling. So how could they teach their children facing the inner volcano? Children seem to fear to be thrown out in case of shouting and slamming doors or whatever. Ask yourself: do you really believe you always have to be kind and calm to be an accepted member of your family? What kind of family is this? Don‘t you know the worth of a cleansing thunderstorm and forgiveness and being good again? Children need to experience rage and fury within themselves in order to learn to cope appropriately.

Emotions are our teachers and helpers. Better we try to learn from them instead of keeping them out of our lives and missing their lessons. Holly is a magnificent teacher.