White Water Lily - Nymphaea alba

Peace, silence, love

The stumbling blocks of love are everywhere. At the happiest moment of the party, the police, summoned by the neighbour, turn up. The cuddliest baby turns into a monster as he struggles through puberty. The beloved person dives under the duvet with someone else.

It’s not like you can consciously choose. Love your neighbour? Even if he’s stabbing you in the back right now? Difficult. Not everyone is Jesus, not even Gandhi.

What you can consciously decide to do, however, is to regulate your behaviour, to learn to deal with conflict, pain, disappointment and annoyance and not automatically react to them with anger, aggression or depression. Reactive behaviour is behaviour that only focuses on what has already happened. It is exclusively about the past and not about problem solving. Its counterpart is called proactive, one acts to achieve.

How does this work? You can invite the neighbour to the party. You can prepare the baby for rough times to come instead of just waiting for them to overwhelm you. And you can keep the relationship on track and solve problems instead of ignoring them.

The easiest way to do this is to start practising already, as long as there is not a cloud in the sky spoils the mood. This is much more difficult in the midst of stress, but help is available.

With White Water Lily, you give your body and soul the signal to want to focus on love from now on. Love for yourself, even if you mess up, love for others, even if they are annoying. Just a signal to yourself, it can be done differently, you can do it, simply remind yourself of it as often as you can so that it becomes a deeply rooted habit.

It builds a base in us that makes love possible. Especially in times when you have lost access after long dark days full of stress, when hope has been disappointed time after time, when you argue and hate each other and have forgotten that hard times are easier when you stick to each other than fight each other.

White Water Lily brings peace, stillness and love. It frees you from ingrained reactive patterns and allows you to look at things from the heart.

When the ego is wounded, frustration, anger and rage are learned reactions that can be unlearned. The soul can heal if one recalls its inherent love.